Do something about it

It always frustrates me when people complain that something "sucks", is "gay", "lame" or that it could have been better, yet they weren't involved. If you can't be bothered to stand up and do something about it, then with all due respect, shut up and sit down.

At school you see a lot of this. A significant amount of effort is put into organizing something, a game at an assembly, an entry for the school choir competition or an inter-class basketball competition. A heck of a lot of effort is put into organizing these events, only to have someone (usually a group of people) say that it "sucked."

A couple of examples:

That game was soo lame, we always play fluffy bunnies why don't you do something different next time.
I'm sorry, what would you prefer to play next time.
I dunno, something better

Well thanks. I'm glad you were so helpful.

Why'd you sing that song, it completely sucked.
If you joined the choir and attended the meetings then you could have helped picking the song.
Choir is lame.
Well maybe next year you could join and we could make it something better, that you think more people would enjoy.
Nah.

So you aren't willing to help choose and perform the song, but you're more than willing to bag the song choice and the performance - again, thanks

Why did we have a basketball competition this year, we had one last year.
The people who organized the competition liked basketball. Maybe next year you could help organize the inter-class sports competition and then help choose a different sport.
Scratch that!

If you aren't willing to change things, why do you think they will - or even should- change.

You notice that the people who complain are usually the people who weren't there when the decision was being made, the people who couldn't be bothered to be part of organizing the event -or even taking part. When you suggest that they take part they give you a look that suggests you have a mental illness or give some slack excuse for not joining.

I feel that if you aren't willing to organize the event, or even take part in the event, then you have no right to voice your opinion. If you tried joining the organizing committees and trying to make a change, putting some effort and work behind your opinions then you might see change. The people who organize events get to make the decisions. This means they get to do what they feel is best, what they enjoy. If everyone who put their hands up for organizing the inter-class sports competition play basketball then expect a basketball tournament. They could be bothered to stand up and do something about implementing what they wanted.

Maybe if you do the same, someone will listen.