I liked you because of your looks but I love you because of who you are...

Love. The feeling is unlike anything that has ever been experienced. The only things that come close are drugs that last only an instant compared to love and leave you worse for wear.... I believe that social conditions are programmed to believe that a decent boyfriend must be cute/hot/good looking. We are such a shallow community.

This has been observed from two different groups of people who are independent of their actions (i.e. the two groups did not know of each others actions) but are characteristic of boys and girls I know.

Group 1: Rebecca and Paula… At the international soccer game they were checking out and commenting on boys of the other teams. Paula then went to one of these players and got their phone number. Contact after this has followed.

Group 2: Johan, John and Dion… From the back of the English class they observed a pretty yr 10 and discussed her looks before going outside to get her attention.

My conclusion from these two observations is that only those who are attractive are desirable as boyfriend/girlfriend.

As shallow as it sounds it is physical attraction that determines whether friends can turn into more than friends. I feel that everyone could be compatible as individuals get along with one another and it is physical attraction that is the true attraction between a couple. For example my friend Larry from intermediate only decided he like Helen after mufti day. Perfect example of what I mean as up until that point he only saw her as a friend. The actions that he thought were signs of affection were only innocent as far as I know.

The sad thing about this social situation is that no one is immune. If someone who you found very physically attractive fell for you, you know you would fall for them… initially, after all just physical attraction cannot make a relationship it is very rare for a relationship to being.